Expressions

Expressions for Agreeing and Disagreeing

Stating an opinion	In my opinion... The way I see it... If you want my honest opinion.... According to Lisa... As far as I'm concerned... If you ask me...
Asking for an opinon	What's your idea? What are your thoughts on all of this? How do you feel about that? Do you have anything to say about this? What do you think? Do you agree? Wouldn't you say?
Expressing agreement	I agree with you 100 percent. I couldn't agree with you more. That's so true. That's for sure. (slang) Tell me about it! You're absolutely right. Absolutely. That's exactly how I feel. Exactly. I'm afraid I agree with James. I have to side with Dad on this one. No doubt about it. (agree with negative statement) Me neither. (weak) I suppose so./I guess so. You have a point there. I was just going to say that.
Expressing disagreement	I don't think so. (strong) No way. I'm afraid I disagree. (strong) I totally disagree. I beg to differ. (strong) I'd say the exact opposite. Not necessarily. That's not always true. That's not always the case. No, I'm not so sure about that.
Interruptions	Can I add something here? Is it okay if I jump in for a second? If I might add something... Can I throw my two cents in? Sorry to interrupt, but... (after accidentally interrupting someone) Sorry, go ahead. OR Sorry, you were saying... (after being interrupted) You didn't let me finish.
Settling an argument	Let's just move on, shall we? Let's drop it. I think we're going to have to agree to disagree. (sarcastic) Whatever you say./If you say so.

Expression of Love

Fun to read a site's psychology, I find the quite interesting article, for the young couple.

According to Gary Chapman, each man has a way to reveal the love of each. However, in general, the expression of love is divided into 5, namely:

1. Affirmation of words. Including: the words that encourage, express voice tone with soft, with humility request, or compliment.
2. Quality time. Including: to give attention, affection and enjoy togetherness. Enjoying this togetherness can be a reciprocal communication back (mutual listening and telling stories), and do activities together (watching movies, traveling, etc.).
3. Receiving gifts. The form of this expression of love is the most easily learned. Examples are giving gifts and surprises.
4. Acts of service. Has a pair of rushing or work of each. The form of this expression of love is to provide assistance on the pairing when need assistance. For example, a husband and wife to help take care of children, husband or wife to help when working on jobs. However, the provision of this assistance will only strengthen the feeling of love, if done with a happy, not because of feeling guilty or forced.
5. Physical touch. Physical touch is here is not always sexual activity, but can only touch on the shoulder, hands, etc.. Forms, including: massage, smacker, menggandeng hands, rub backs, etc.. Perhaps, a touch of this expression is very effective in communicate love.

Example dialog :

Yati         : Good Morning, Efah !

Efah       : Good Morning, Yati !

Yati         : I feel happy today. Do you know ?

Efah       : No, I don’t. Why ?

Yati         : Tonight, someone sent me a message. He say, he loved me.

                   I don’t know him. But, I think he is my friend when I’m in Elementary School.

Efah       : Really ?

Yati         : Yeaah ..

Efah       : Haha .. It’s make me feel happy too. You can introduce him to me.

Yati         : Yes, soon.

Expressions of Sadness

Who wants such an unpopular feeling? YOU DO, if you want to be happy. This may seem bizarre, but it most assuredly is true. For unless you are able to feel sadness (and its relatives: sobbing, grief and tears), you will forever be avoiding sadness. Avoidance makes you prone to addictive behavior, psychosomatic symptoms, high levels of anxiety and acting-out skewed behavior.

Sadness is a natural feeling which, if unfelt, just stays in our array of unresolved trauma knots. As with other emotions, feel it and it will go away. Resist feeling it and it hangs around forever, periodically erupting inappropriately in our body's attempt to rid itself of associated trauma knots.

It has been most unfashionable to cry, most particularly in the 1950s and 1960s. Negative judgments were commonly made about those who did so in public. Politicians for many years avoided anything even remotely connected to tears. Today that seems to be changing. We all need to feel sadness and grief at times. If we are not to remain emotionally disabled, then we need to allow whatever sobs need to wrack us and whatever tears need to roll down our cheeks.

Emotionally healthy adults are comfortable saying the words I love you to men, women, and children in a feeling way.

Common inhibiting beliefs are: (1)my tears would never stop, (2)tears or sobbing would show weakness (unmanliness too), (3)others would disapprove.

(1)Of course your tears would stop. Don't histrionic tears of even the most melodramatic person eventually stop? The real fear typically is that of loss of control. If I let the tears or sobbing start, then I won't be able to stop them. They will stop of their own accord, probably sooner than later. You will stop them if you need to do so in an emergency or if that is your choice
(2)Do tears and sobbing show weakness? NO, THEY SHOW STRENGTH! That is, of course, a different view from what many of us learned as children. Nevertheless, it takes strength and courage to allow all one's emotions (particularly ones that might be criticized) to be expressed. To be authentic emotionally shows much more strength of character than to hide one's unpopular parts. The person who cannot or will not express the natural human expressions of tears and sobbing could be considered emotionally crippled.
(3)There are still some who disapprove of almost any expression of sadness, because they are afraid to feel it themselves. The phrase "break down into tears" captures the essence of this disapproval. I have hopes the media will soon come to realize that use of "break down" in that context is unhelpful to society and fosters continuation of macho-male stereotypes. In the 1990s, given many tears by famous males, disapproval of sadness and tears is definitely on the wane. Hallelujah!
One common dilemma facing us in our relationships is what to do when our partner starts crying. Do we attempt to comfort or do we maintain a respectful distance? This may be likened to serving another person fried eggs. You probably wouldn't serve someone a fried egg unless you asked beforehand whether they liked it sunny-side-up or turned-over. Likewise, we had best check with our particular partners beforehand to find out their likes and dislikes concerning comfort vs. distance when they cry. Then one gives that partner what they want. (Be alive to the fact that such wants may change over time, perhaps even from one time to the next. Both partners need to keep communicating.)

Emotionally Healthy Adults (with respect to sadness)
1. are comfortable with sadness, their own and others.
2. allow their own wracking sobs and tears.
3. feel good once their sobs and tears have been expressed.
4. are not stuck in recurring sadness, which happens when (a)hatred is blocked, (b)one's spiritual system is an unhappy one or if (c)childhood hopelessness is being blocked.

The Sad Expressions

A. The crying baby face shows elements of the sad expression: narrowed eyes and raised cheeks, eyebrows pulled together, lip corners pulled down, chin boss pushed up, but also includes lateral lip stretching and has no raising of the eyebows in the center of the forehead .	B. A suffering child shows a typical sad expression, with narrowed eyes and raised cheeks, eyebrows pulled together and raised in the center of forehead forming wrinkles in the glabella, and a slightly pushed up chin boss. The lips may be slightly pulled laterally and downwards.	C. This depiction of sadness shows the downturned lip corners and pushed up chin boss consistent with a sad expression. Also, the eyes are narrowed, but any actions in the brow area are obscured. Her posture, gaze direction, and head orientation help convey the overall sad expression.

 

 Expressing Sadness

• Oh, I just  don’t know what to do
• Please leave me alone
• Come on! It can not be as bad as all that..
• I can see why you’re so sad…but…

Example Dialog :

Yati         : Hay Efah..

Efah       : Eh Yati ..

Yati         : What are you doing now ?

Efah       : Nothing ..

Yati         : But, I see you sadness .

Efah       : Yes, that’s right.

Yati         : Why ?

Efah       : Because I lose my novel.

Yati         : How can it lose ?

Efah       : Before, I take it in my table. Then I go out from the class.

                   When I come back, It’s Nothing..

Yati         : You really sloopy.

Efah       : Yeah, I know.

Yati         : Try to look for. I will help you.

Efah       : Thanks ..

Expressions of Embarrassment

Shyness and embarrassment arise only in real or imagined social situations: They occur in public. Therefore, they have not only social antecedents but also social consequences. When I feel shy, I behave in a certain way; if you notice this behaviour, you may infer that I am shy and adjust your behaviour accordingly. Behaviours that lawfully accompany a certain state or trait and are used by most people to infer that state or trait are commonly called the expressions of that state or trait. Thus, the social consequences of shyness and embarrassment depend upon its expression: If you are able to control your shyness perfectly, I will not notice it, and it will have no consequences for our future interaction so far as I am concerned.
The definition of “expression” given earlier reflects its meaning in common sense, but closer inspection reveals that this is an unduly narrow concept. First, there may exist behaviours that lawfully accompany a state or trait but are not perceived as indicators of that state or trait by most people. For example, shyness may be accompanied by more subtle behavioural cues of which most of us are not aware, or of which no one can be aware during the normal course of social interaction, although these cues can be revealed by a detailed behavioural analysis.

Expressing embarrassment

• How embarrassing !
• It really makes me ashamed.
• I was so embarassed.
• tell me it did not happen.

Expressions  of Annoyance and Anger

These are some common expressions for showing annoyance and anger. Expressing annoyance is used to express that someone is annoyed or anger

• Oh, dear!
• Oh, no!
• Bother!
• Damn!
• I can't believe it!
• Why does this always happen!
• For goodness sake!
• For heaven's sake!
• For pete's sake!
• For pity's sake!
• For God's sake!
• I’m annoyed
• I had enough with it
• I can’t stand it
• I can’t bear it any longer
• I’m fed up with it
• You made me annoyed
• You are such pain in the neck
• You made me sick
• I’m extremely displeased with…
• …is very irritating
• I’m extremely unhappy about this
• …really makes me mad
• I cannot stand…
• Why on earth he didn’t…?

After knowing common phrases and vocabularies, it is good to see the example of dialog to show annoyance and anger
Example Dialog :

A : You know George didn’t come last Saturday night
B : Really? I saw him with a girl in ABC cafe. I thought they were dating there.
A : But he said that he accompanied his mother to hospital
B : You were lied by him.
A : Yes, I know. I am annoyed. I can’t bear it any longer. It’s over.

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Efah       : Hey Naufal ! What are you doing there ?

Naufal   : I want to sit here !

Efah       : Move now ! I am watching now. You had block my view.

Naufal   : Aaaah ! Just a minutes !

Efah       : Move now Naufal !

Naufal   : Ok. I’m sorry sister ..